Silent Philly Visits Blue Cross River Rink’s Winter Fest | 21 February 2020




Silent Philly came to the ice rink on Friday night! As I was walking in, I was 45 minutes early for the next session, I ran into one of the DJs. We started talking and he told me about the program. There are three DJs, each has a station on the headphones and you can skate while listening to the DJs. A club on the go!

$15 later, I had headphones for four hours. I grooved to all the stations while skating through two sessions (4 hours). I enjoyed skating with the other participants and I loved meeting the other DJs too, after skating was over. It’s good to know I can skate with noise cancelling headphones on and now I’ll feel comfortable putting my own personal headphones in while skating.

I loved the red channel the most. They were hits of the 80s, 90s, and 2000s. A lot of r&b I haven’t heard in at least 12 years! Happy memories while skating and creating new ones. Above, some of the songs I grooved and skated to. *Jamming*

The DJs followed the Happiness Box Instagram and loved the photos I posted, including the selfies.

Last month I met a group of kind, generous, sweet teenager boys that I would say are around 16, 17. The one, Connor, took my video last month and a selfie with me. In the month since, he’s been really kind and has helped a bit with skating. I’m still learning and he takes care not to bump into me or anyone else.

Friday night we got talking and he doesn’t mind helping or taking videos. Seems like a rink friendship is blooming. Same with his friends and Matt, one of the staff members.

At the end of our conversation, I thought I hope this isn’t weird and I’m not seen as inappropriate. Then I thought back to when I was a teen. I had 30,40,50,60,70,80 year old friends when I was a teen and sans the ones who passed away of older age, I am still friends with and go to for advice. I’m grateful I had them around when I was a teen.

Teenagers seem to like me. Maybe providing friendship and guidance if they ask isn’t such a bad thing. I know it helped me, it has helped others and I’m going to pass it on.

Can’t wait to see Connor, Matt and the gang next week. Silent Philly returns on 6 March and I will be participating. Winter Fest closes on 8 March and I’ll be savouring the final few weeks before it turns into roller skating in May.

Thankful Friday 21 February 2020

I want to thank everyone who reached out to me yesterday. My manager apologized, not directly, but offered apologies to everyone. Lately, I think since this weather has been a roller coaster this winter, our emotions are following the trend.

It’s human nature to have disagreements. However, I’ve been learning that talking about our feelings are listening are a great way to come to a resolution. I asked a friend if I was inconsistent, she said yes and said it’s because I don’t really quite plan, have all these ideas and it’s hard for me to plan them all, and I don’t always listen. We talked it out, I saw where she was coming from and she saw where I was coming from. Our disagreement didn’t ruin a friendship, instead it brought us closer together. Honestly, I think that is the healthy way to handle such things.

I think in the future I will sit down with my manager and share how I’m feeling, now that I am in a better mood. I know it’s not necessary and I have a feeling other professionals would advise against it, but who knows? Like I shared with my therapist, I want to be honest about my feelings and I think that feeling the feels is a path towards and authentic life.

Saturday Night Skating

After I arrived back in Philadelphia, I decided to go ice skating.

As I was waiting for the rink to open, I saw a young lady wearing a nice pair of leg warmers. I walked over to her, complimented her and asked if she made them. Her mom did and she gave me her mom’s Instagram.

We started to chat and her boyfriend joined in. We chatted crafting, photography, and the guy works as a sky diver. He talked me into trying it at some point. Matt and Patty were there names and they agreed to a selfie.

I guess I am a natural schmoozer!

Sideshow Horror Market at Merchant Square Mall | Allentown, PA | 15 February 2020

Yesterday felt like an extension of the weekday when my alarm went off at 5:22, okay, so 17 minutes later than a normal weekday morning! Haha. The bus from Philadelphia to Allentown left at 7:15, I had to be there by 7.
I took Lyft and ended up at the Greyhound Station at 6:30. They were sort of rude at the Greyhound Station in Philadelphia because I asked them which line I should wait in. They grumpily told me, “this isn’t a Greyhound bus! It’s some bus over there that will board at 7!” Alright. When I went over at 7, to walk out the door, the same person grumpily snapped, “I told you it was over there!” I was already walking over there. 
The bus ride was nice; Trailways was a lot nicer than Greyhound. The only time I’ve been on a Greyhound was from Green Bay to Milwaukee back in 2012 and they overbooked the trip! Yesterday’s trip wasn’t that full, I put on my headphones and window watched. I was in Allentown in 1.5 hours. The ride was quicker than the ticket estimated.
Once in Allentown, I went to Starbucks and walked Downtown Allentown, aka City Center, and took photos. City Center by the PPL Center is really nice. I want to go back when it’s warmer and walk around some more. Maybe see a show and have dinner at the Dime.
I looked at my watch and saw it was time to order Lyft. I had a Middle Eastern driver and he was super friendly. Merchant Square Mall was maybe ten minutes away and it was remote. It reminded me of Zerns. Zerns was this farmer’s market in Gilbertsville that my parents and I went to a lot when I was a child. 
I walked in and a jeweler greeted me. He asked me if I was looking for anything in particular and I told him I was looking for the Sideshow Horror Market. He pointed out the directions, then tried to talk me into buying some swarovski crystals. I told him when I left the market, I’d come back.
I passed a few gothic and comic shops on my way to the special events hall. Those stores looked neat, but I was too focused on getting to the show to see Anna and Alli. 
I paid the admission and as I walked through the doors, I saw Anna. I ran over to her, we hugged, and she showed me where she was set up. Alli gave me a big hug too.

 It was so great seeing Anna and Alli too! Anna’s first art market and the day was a success. I helped sell a set of Valentine’s Day cards and marketed. I’m glad I could be there for my friends. 

When I wasn’t helping, I was walking around to the other shops. One shop was selling a hatchet girl lamp; she gave it to me for $20 because the person who custom ordered it, backed out and she couldn’t find any other buyers. Her shop was neat. I also met Damian MacDonavan, who hosts Damian’s Dreadfuls on RCN. Unfortunately, we don’t get RCN in King of Prussia/Philadelphia, but he is on YouTube. He was fun to chat with and his camera assistant was even better.  I also met Father Evil. 


Alli’s boyfriend, Matt, came later. The show ended at 4pm and before we cleared out, Matt took our group photos. I asked Anna if she wanted to sit and she said, “no, girl, you sit because you helped make this day great! You have the gift of schmooze and you helped draw in customers. You’re a natural!” That made me feel joyful. 
Matt ended up taking me to Hummus House, a gluten-free Middle Eastern restaurant by the bus station. Matt is gluten-free and that was his favourite spot. Anna is staying with Alli and Alli lives in Bethlehem; they were going to take me to a restaurant, but since Matt lives in Allentown he offered to take me and that’s when he suggested Hummus House. I’m glad I left with a group of people because I bypassed that crystal guy. I had no intention of buying any crystals, but we left quickly. 
Hummus House was delicious! Matt is friends with the owner, so all I had to say is, “Matt called and I’m the friend that is gluten-free.” He gave me the gluten-free list; I ordered garlic hummus with GF pita and a lentil salad. I have half of the lentil salad left, that was so filling. 
After I ate, I had a half an hour to kill before the bus. The owner let me hang out a little longer and let me charge my phone. The restaurant was not only delicious, but very kind. 
I enjoyed my day trip to Allentown. Matt said, “next time you plan coming up here, let Alli know. I run at Valley Forge Park and I can always pick you up.” I told Anna I was thinking about going to a rubber stamp convention at the Allentown Fairgrounds later this year. She recommended that if I go, ask her cousin if I could stay. Her cousin was out of town this weekend and that wasn’t a viable option. Anna’s cousin is super sweet and that is who I stayed with when Anna was in town in July. 
I left at 6:43 and got back to Philadelphia by 8:15. It wasn’t a bad bus trip! My resolution for the Roaring 20’s 2.0 is seeing my friends more often. Anna lives in Greenville, SC and last summer when I saw her, that was my first time since March 2009! A whole decade! I didn’t want to see Anna in another decade and since she is one of my best friends and one I’ve had for almost 20 years (August 2020 will mark 20 years!), I wanted to be there for her. We all had a blast yesterday.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Happy Valentine’s Day, dear readers!


I believe in random acts of kindness and when is a better day than Valentine’s Day?

Since I have Blue Cross insurance and can get four people in free of charge, I treated a couple to ice skating. They were appreciative and they looked like they were having a blast.

My Valentine was the ice and we had a blast. I’m glad the temperature fell to 28 degrees and I hope that the final two weeks are this cold. The rink closes on 8 March.

Thankful Thursday 13 February 2020

My thoughts are heavy today. I didn’t get the technical coordinator position at my full-time job, which I figured. I like the one who got it and she knows her stuff. My manager recommended trying for analyst again. I told her, “I’m an English major, not a financial analyst and I would suck at that job.” Her response, “but you like Excel and Office.” So? English majors aren’t financial analysts, they are word and report analysts. I’m not a good fit for that… I would have been a better technical coordinator.

What I did was probably insubordination, I’m throwing away my high paying potential, but I believe that what I truly want to do, while it might not make a millionaire, I can make decent money. Money isn’t the only thing that matters; while I know all careers aren’t rainbows and unicorns, I want more better days than bad days. I want to feel a belonging and I want to feel a match, I also want to grow with someone that aligns with me. Milennial thinking? Mayhaps. However, friends have said just like my parents and Nan used to say, I can be anything I want to be. My life, my terms. I’m grateful for friends today.

I’m thankful that my post about Birds of Prey made it into @MovieReviewsByUs’s blog. I loved the movie and at a later date I might make a more in depth entry and I do want to see it a few more times, I’m grateful that I was recognized.

Anna’s in town this weekend for a Horror Sideshow Art Show at Merchant Square in Allentown, PA. I saw her last summer for the first time in ten years and I don’t want to wait another ten years, so I ordered my Greyhound ticket and I’m going to visit her stand this weekend. I can’t wait to see her, show support, and also explore Allentown for a bit. I’m thankful for her friendship and it’s the least I can do.

What are you thankful for?