Franklin Fright (And the Return to Nightmare Before Tinsel) 21 October 2021

On Thursday evening, I decided to go back to Tinsel. I ran into Josh and despite the Harley Quinn makeup, he recognized me. He said, “I could recognize you from a mile away.” Awww. He was dressed up as a gangsta Freddy Krueger and couldn’t wait to take more photos. I asked him how felt about the Joker. And dressing up as Joker.

“Which Joker are we talking about? Jared Leto?”

“Nah. I broke up with that Joker.”

He laughed and said, “good, I’m not ripped enough for that one. How about Heath Ledger’s?”

“I love Heath Ledger! I love his Joker the best.”

He smiled and I replied, “I’ll be back again on the 30th, all dressed. I’m going to another costume party then.”

“Okay, I’ll see what I can come up with on the 30th.”

By that point, I met a group of young women and they let me join their group for a round of shots. I met Kathy, Karen, Joe, and Ben. It was Kathy’s birthday and we spent a good half an hour chatting. Taking a shot for Kathy’s birthday was fun and I’m grateful that they included me, and let me take a photo for the Happiness Box. We exchanged phone numbers and we’ll be in touch.

Karen sent me the Boomerang video she took. Unfortunately, lighting is bad in spooky places.

Unfortunately, I didn’t see Josh before I left for a photo. It was getting pretty crowded, and I needed to eat before I went to the Franklin Institute. It was 6:45 at that point and Franklin Fright began at 8pm. At least Kathy took this photo for me before I left:

I was going to have dinner at Sansom Kabob since I haven’t had a meal there since before the pandemic. Unfortunately, they were still on a take out basis only. Instead, I tried a new place: the sushi and poke restaurant up the street. They had gluten-free options and the sushi I had was delicious. Harley Quinn loves sushi.

I finished around 7:16 and walked to the Franklin Institute. From 13th and South to 20th and Winter streets, it took me about 35 minutes to walk that. It had to be a good 3 miles. It felt nice to walk. Everyone I passed by loved my costume. Even young children shouted, “it’s Harley Quinn! I love you Harley!” Their mothers also loved my costume. Made me feel good.

Franklin Fright was amazing. I met Gwen, Meg, Laura, Elsie, and Matt. It was an evening of selfies, photo booths, drag shows, the planetarium, and science experiments. We had to show proof of vaccination and it felt good to be back to a new normal.

I’ll post photos first, then videos of two of the drag performers.

Such a fun evening! I’ll be going to the Franklin Institute next Saturday before going back to Nightmare Before Tinsel and the costume party. Next Saturday will be the family one. It’ll be a different type of fun, but fun nonetheless. I love Halloween.

Thankful Thursday 21 October 2021

Good morning dear readers! I’m writing this post super early because tonight I will be going to the Franklin Institute’s Halloween party. I’m thankful they are having a Halloween party this year and it sounds like it’s going to be super fun. I’m also feeling better, so now I have the extra protection from my booster, which I am also grateful for.

As I said the other day, we are not out of the haunted woods yet with COVID-19, but there is some semblance of “normal,” a “new normal” this year and I’m grateful. My Happiness Box overflows.

What are you thankful for today?

Shabbat 8 October 2021

Shabbat on the night of 8 October was so lovely! After a few months of chatting on Zoom and Facebook, I finally got to meet Daniel face to face. πŸ˜„

Sitting with him, Jeremy, and David was a real delight. They broke their challah, while we broke our gluten free meals. Lively conversation had by all!

I placed these two selfies into my Happiness Box for 2021. Another beautiful memory added.

Nightmare Before Tinsel (8 October 2021)

Apparently, there is a Christmas and Hanukkah bar that serves drinks every year from November until New Year’s Day. It’s called “Tinsel.” However, they open in September and October for Halloween. They call it “Nightmare Before Tinsel,” a play on the movie title “Nightmare Before Christmas.”

I decided to go on 8 October before my Shabbat. When I walked to the place, a Beetlejuice guy was standing outside. He piqued my interest, but I continued inside. It’s a really spooky place. I ordered a PSL type drink and they gave me a pale to keep.

Of course, I had to take pictures and I asked people to take photos of me.

I had to step outside and take a call, then I saw the Beetlejuice guy. He works for Tinsel and I asked him if I could take a selfie with him. He did one step better: he asked his friend to take our photo. His friend prepared to take the photo; then Josh, that was Beetlejuice’s name, thought a photo in front of the sign would be better. His friend caught Josh and I laughing before we moved for a photo under the sign.

His friend took two photos of Josh and I. I felt like we were being followed by the Halloween paparazzi.

I thanked him for the photos and he said, “we can take photos all night if you’d like!” Oh, Josh.

Philadelphia and the counties surrounding Philadelphia are all requiring proof of vaccination before we are allowed inside. I know everyone I meet inside and in places are all vaccinated. While I’m still safe and still mask up for medium to large sized crowds, it’s just nice that Philadelphia is following in the footsteps of NYC. It makes this Spooky season a little easier. We’re still not out of the haunted woods, however.

I’m heading to an adult Halloween at the Franklin Institute on Thursday night. Before I go to the Franklin Institute, I’ll stop by Nightmare Before Tinsel again, dressed as Harley Quinn. Can’t wait! I hope to see Josh again!

I Got My Booster!

I believe health is a major part of happiness – they have a symbiotic relationship, as your health depends upon happiness and happiness depends upon your health.

I know I’ve been a bit MIA. I finally got my cycle after two years. I was never a regular gal, and after tests not figuring out why, I think I know why. The why may not solve the whole issue, but nonetheless I am happy it came, even if it was a shocker (total Halloween mode too… of course, I had nothing and neither did people in the office, oh well). I believe leaving a job that was toxic to my soul and starting a new job that aligns with my soul has made the difference. Sorry if that’s TMI. But, I wanted to share that tidbit because joy relieves stress a bit and when stress is low, your body can function normally.

My job had a vaccine clinic today. I got my flu shot a few weeks ago, but I was eligible for the Modern booster. I got my booster today. So far, I’m not sore like the 1st and especially the 2nd dose, so I’m hoping I won’t go sick. It feels great to have the booster.

It was nice seeing so many people attend the vaccine clinic. Philadelphia and many counties surrounding Philadelphia are now requiring proof of vaccination. My guess is it’ll eventually include proof of booster. Regardless of when the booster requirement takes place, I’m prepared for the long winter ahead. Here’s to a happy and healthy Jessica!

National Coming Out Day

It’s National Coming Out Day! Reminder I’m ace, demiromantic and use she/her pronouns. Please remember, asexuality just means the person isn’t sexually attracted to someone else. They’re not prudes, immature, child-like, or robots. Asexuality is a spectrum, from ace to gray ace to demisexuality.

Sex positive aces will have sex, as do aces with a libido, and sometimes they will compromise with partners.

Then there are sex neutral aces who don’t really care about the act, and some may have it, and some may not. Sex averse, doesn’t care what people do, but they definitely don’t want to be touched. Where sex repulsed aces don’t like hearing about people talking about private details and they definitely don’t want to be touched.

I’m somewhere between neutral and averse. I’m not sexually attracted to anyone and I will not compromise for anyone. What makes this different than celibacy is, for me this isn’t a choice. I have never been sexually attracted to anyone. I’ve always seen people as friends.

However, since I do develop crushes if there is an emotional connection, I am demiromantic rather than aromantic or alloromantic (allo simply means they are sexually or romantically attracted to others). I do develop crushes, but any relationship would have to be platonic. That’s why I mostly stick to friendships.

Even though I am on the aspec (asexual spectrum), I am not a robot. I still love hugs, I still love cuddling up to people, and I like affection. I still feel love.

I’m proudly open about my orientation. I’m proudly open about my journey. Like many others in the LGBTQ+ community, acephobes may try to “correct” the person. Many times an ace person isn’t believed. “Oh, you just haven’t met the right person!” Or “I can change that for you!”

Almost 8 years ago, someone tried to “correct” me. Their act didn’t really change my identity, however, they have made me loud and proud about who I am. Okay, okay, not right away. It’s been a journey with a lot of therapy, and it took me a long time to be okay with myself. I am who I am and I am proud of who I am.

I learned about myself when I became an ally at WCU in October 2011. I never knew “asexuality” existed and once I learned about it, it sounded just like me. I’ve been out since 2018.

Happy National Coming Out Day, y’all! πŸ™‚

Thankful Thursday 7 October 2021

Happy October! First Thankful Thursday in October; and 24 more days until Halloween. I can’t wait! Halloween brings joy before the really difficult anniversary.

Yesterday was dad’s birthday and they left for the Poconos until Saturday evening. Dad took me to work, so I was able to give him his birthday card. I also sent him a birthday comic; both the card and comic were by Mark Parisi.

The card:

Inside: I hope your birthday is on a roll.

I’m so grateful dad loved both of these birthday greetings. He especially loved the Blob. The Blob is one of his favourite movies. I’m also grateful that dad took me to work.

Today as I was waiting for Lyft after work, I ran into the DA. He knows who I am and he asked me how everything is going. I told him I love my job, I love the people I work with, and it’s really up my alley. He smiled and said, “I’m so glad to hear!”

I added, “I’m also thinking about eventually getting a paralegal certificate. I graduated with an English degree with a concentration in writing and it would be a great pairing.”

He gave me a big smile, nodded his head in agreement, and added, “you work with a bunch of great writers.” We parted ways, but I am so grateful that my boss is nice, and I work with a bunch of nice people. I truly love my full-time job and I’m grateful and blessed that I was paired with this.

I’m also thankful for friends, family, and my library co-workers. What are you grateful for today?

Aunt Kathy’s Birthday Tea

October is Depression and Anxiety Awareness Month and since both of these conditions hit home for me and were the reason why I started this project in the first place, I want to highlight some entries where what I write about has helped me cope with my depression. Yes, I do take an antidepressant and I do attend therapy, but my personal treatment involves self care, doing things I love, and spending time with people I love. I need medicinal help, but that alone doesn’t solve everything. Mind, body, and spirit along with pharmacological.

Last Wednesday, Aunt Kathy turned 60. On Sunday, she decided to hold a tea party. It was Aunt Kathy, Aunt Marie, (cousin) Maureen, her daughter Samantha, Aunt Peg, mom, and I. Just the gals. Aunt Kathy made me special gluten-free and kosher sandwiches and snacks. Mom bought Aunt Kathy a beautiful cake from Clay’s (unfortunately, it wasn’t gluten-free, and sadly Clay’s doesn’t bake gluten-free… that was my favourite place before the diagnosis) and Aunt Kathy was so surprised, delighted too!

Everyone was happy to hear about my new job and my conversion process. Such a lovely afternoon filled with stories and laughter.

Aunt Kathy was grateful that we could celebrate her milestone with her. That’s all she wanted for her birthday – not the gifts, not the cards, but the love and warmth of family.

I wrote about this for my Happiness Box Project and I’m waiting for some of the pictures to arrive.

Thankful Thursday 30 September 2021

Wow! It’s the end of September already! It’s hard to believe that there are only three more months left of 2021. This year really has flown by like last year.

I’m still going to be less active for a while. Work, religious conversion studies, and everything else that goes on in life. I’ll update, but I won’t really be reading. I’ll catch up once busy-ness dies down. I’m not complaining – I love being busy.

Happy 1 month! Everything is going well. I like my coworkers and I’m starting to make friends. Security guards introduced themselves yesterday, so I’m on a first name basis there. Then since I’m always going to the Courthouse to run errands, I’ve made friends with some of the deputies too. We were laughing today and the two made a bet to see how many trips I’d be taking today. Only 3. πŸ˜‚Gosh, I love my new job. It truly is a fit.

What are you grateful for today?