Thankful Thursday 19 May 2022

I know I haven’t been active lately. There have been a lot of changes at my full-time job and I was made a floater. Since I’ve been made a floater, I’ve been doing all my old work, as well as a lot of back and forth. I’m exhausted and not happy with the change.

However, I’m grateful for my new co-workers and of course the ADA I’m typing for. I’m glad we collaborate well and I’m glad my new co-workers are welcoming. For that, I am always grateful. It makes a less than ideal situation more tolerable.

I’ve been spending a lot of time with Tommy and for that, I am also grateful for. He is an amazing boyfriend, and has been nothing but wonderful. I love him. With that said, we will be planning our summer and I won’t be blogging as much. I’ll only blog Thankful Thursdays.

I’m also thankful for friends and family. What are you grateful for today?

Thankful Thursday 5 May 2022

First Thursday in May! So glad for a new month, and beautiful weather today. It’s always nice to take a walk at lunch, and go to the playground after work when I don’t have the library. I took photos at the playground of the beautiful scenery.

I’m thankful that I completed NaPoWriMo last weekend. I’m thankful that Tommy liked some of the poems I wrote about him. I’m also thankful for friends and family.

What are you thankful for?

Our First Seder Together (20 April 2022) and Stonewall Seder with Tommy (21 April 2022)

This is going to be mostly a photo entry. I took more photos during our first Seder together, and I took the group photo too quickly on a timer that it cut off our heads. Oh dear. Ha!

Tommy enjoyed both Seders and loved the discussions I prompted. It made him open up and share some of his thoughts on social issues. I think these Seders were a great opportunity to get to know one another some more.

When we did the Stonewall Seder, I told him that was the reason why I texted him on Easter. I explained what prompted it and that I was most likely targeted then raped because I am an ace. It might not have been the total reason, but I told Brandon that I wasn’t attracted to him before he got me drunk and then drugged me to rape me, that it felt like it. I shed a tear a little and Tommy asked me to explain being an ace to him. I told him, “I’m not into most people. You’re my person and I’m into you.” He smiled.

I think Tommy liked the Stonewall Seder the most because it’s non-traditional and was quicker. For the Stonewall Seder, the afikomen wasn’t a piece of matzo like in a traditional Seder, the afikomen was something symbolic to each of us. I chose my camera, he chose his skateboard, then we talked about why.

We did have some fun after the Seder and I will share the one photo I took:

We snuggled on the couch, then ate a Passover meal that we ordered.

I consider this one of my afikomens. When he built my bookshelf and I was cleaning out my closet, I found this sleepover book that I took out for every sleepover. I shared the memories with Tommy and I asked him to sign the pillowcase. He did and now I have new sleepover memories.

We ended our evenings by playing Minecraft. This is part of relationship in a nutshell.

These were a special three days. I wrote all about them for my Happiness Box and printed the photos. I’m so glad Tommy and I celebrated together and look forward to more celebrations with him.

Thankful Thursday 21 April 2022

Ah, Thursday again! With only two more days of Passover, 11 more days of Ramadan, Easter and Ridvan behind us, Earth Day is tomorrow, and April is one big month of celebration this year. There’s a lot to be thankful for.

My parents are in Florida until Friday night. Tommy is spending a few days with me and I am so grateful he’s here. My parents are grateful too, especially dad. We are all grateful for this relationship, but Tommy and I are especially more grateful. It’s nice having him here and the Boy has warmed up to him. Huzzah, a win all around!

Of course, Boy wanted the cereal milk as well..

Last night we celebrated our first Passover Seder as a couple. I’ll make a separate blog entry about that one. It went well and I’m so thankful that we could discuss things during the Seder. Today will be doing to Stonewall Seder and I have some wonderful things planned for that one. Thank you, Tommy, thank you so much for opening your heart to my celebrations.

Yesterday at lunch, I decided to visit a florist for sunflowers for my Seder to honour Ukraine. I Googled florists near the Courthouse and a Spanish one came up. I walked to the address and nothing. A gentleman walking by stopped to help me find this florist, but nothing. I am grateful he helped me, but Google forgot to mark it as closed. The gentleman suggested the one on Fornance Street and gave me directions. That was the florist my dad used to buy from. I called and they had sunflowers.

When I arrived, I was surprised to see a nursery and a little store front. I walked in and it was a quaint shop. The florist greeted me and I explained that I was sunflowers 🌻 girl. These sunflowers would be used for the Seders I’m having (to honour Ukraine).

When I was a little girl and young teen, my dad used to order flower bouquets for me from this florist. Very friendly. As the florist was preparing my sunflowers, I told him about how one year dad gave me a beta fish tank vase. He laughed and said they were very popular. This was 2001.

As I was checking out, I saw the cards that came with flower deliveries. I said, “I still have that card dad filled out for me!” I was excited and added, “I scrapbook.”

A walk down memory lane on my lunch break, one that I am grateful for.

Of course I’m thankful for friends and family. What are you grateful for today?

Stonewall Seder on Zoom with J-PROUD | Passover Day #3 | 17 April 2022

The Stonewall Seder last evening was amazing and beautiful. As an Asexual, I am so happy to be welcomed into the LGBTQ+ group and aces are acknowledged. Asexuality is a bit controversial, as well as bisexuality, to some LGBT folks because they can appear straight. I’m glad my Jewish group doesn’t see it that way and they put that struggle into the Stonewall Haggadah.

Before the Seder started, Galia said, “if you have any pets, they’re more welcomed to join in on our Zoom Seder.” I decided to get the Boy. He fought me as I walked back downstairs, but he stayed in my hands for a few minutes as I introduced Gizmo to the group. Galia thought he was cute. I explained that he was a stray that we took in 3 years ago after Mimi died and he’s still getting used to us. He still hates being picked up, though. A few other pets of other members showed up doing the Seder. I’m happy to report that the Boy has forgiven me and he cuddled with me last night.

For the Stonewall Haggadah, they use the names of people who were killed for being who they are. That was a really hard list to read, especially since it’s grown over the past year. Ten drops of wine fell onto my napkin.

Loved hearing this in Ladino. Ladino is the language of Sephardic Jews, it’s a combination of Spanish and Hebrew.

As the Seder progressed and we had moments filled with tears, I reflected on the gratitude I’ve felt for the past few days. Tommy accepts that I am ace and while we compromise, he doesn’t force and is patient. Not only due to the asexuality, but PTSD as well. When I came out to him, he didn’t judge me like I feared. I am loved wholeheartedly. I sent him a text message and he responded back. I took myself off the camera on Zoom to send the text. I wanted to express my gratitude to him; I never thought I’d meet and love someone who accepted me. I don’t think he expected it for himself either.

After we drank our fourth glass of wine, we sang Chag Goya. As you can tell by the video, this is definitely a drinking song!

The whole Seder lasted an hour. It was abbreviated because of Zoom. Before we parted, Galia asked if she could take a screenshot of the group. I decided to get my selfie.

We were able to chat afterwards and I was chatting with a Kosher gluten-free chef. We exchanged e-mails and we’re going to keep in touch. It felt nice to chat with Galia, Sheri, and a few others after the Seder. A wonderful day #3.

P.S. it was nice getting dressed up, but since I was on Zoom, I didn’t have to worry about stockings! I went barefoot!

First Night of Passover with Grad/Young Professionals Network | Penn Hillel | 15 April 2022

On Friday night, I attended my first Passover Seder in person. For those of you who are my Facebook friend, you’ve seen the photos. I’m going to post some photos here as well. I’m so glad everyone was okay with me taking photos and were happy that I was taking photos.

I wish Tommy attended with me, but I know large groups aren’t his thing. There were quite a few interfaith couples there, and I had fun chatting with them. I also chatted with a few young gals, and it felt great meeting new people. I switched Facebook and Instagram usernames with the ones I have selfies with.

I recorded when we sang Daiyanhu. I didn’t take video of the Seder guests, unless I took the photos. I wanted the recording only.

Elana and Keir are one of the interfaith couples I met. Keir is the non-Jewish one and I asked him, “so, what do you think? I’ll be doing this with my boyfriend next week and he’s never done this before.”

“It’s really cool. I like it and can’t wait to do this again. Elana will be experiencing Easter on Sunday.”

Elana and Keir. Then the two gals were an interfaith couple too.

Elana is going to do like I normally do (my parents went to Florida this year and Tommy didn’t invite me over), she will bring her Seder plate to the celebration (which I was going to do if Tommy was having anything – they’re going to his grandparents’ house and his mom thinks it’s too early in the relationship for me to go). I do that with my family. Elana and I both laughed.

Selfies with Elana and Keir, Yael and Allie, and Matt:

Mallory, who runs the Grad and Young Professionals Network, compiled an interfaith Haggadah. She let me take one, which I will use with Tommy. I’m also grateful that Mallory let me sign up so last minute. I’m so glad I met her and I’m so glad I’m always included in events. It was just wonderful meeting new people on Friday night. Elana and Yael both added me to Facebook. I’m waiting for Matt and Keir to add me back. Hopefully new friendships will bloom!

Today is not only day #3 of Passover and Easter, but today is also Ramadan and Ramadan runs this whole month. April is full of holidays – Ridvan (Bahai Faith), Mahavir Jayanthi (Hindus), Vaisakhi (Sikhs), Theravada (Buddhists), and Gathering of Nations (Indigenous People). Regardless of what you celebrate, I hope you had (and have) a wonderful holiday filled with peace and love.

Happy Passover!

Happy Easter!

رمضان مبارك

Happy Ridvan!

Happy Vaisakhi!

Happy Theravada!

Happy Mahavir Jayanthi!

Passover Gratitude

At sundown, Passover begins. I waited until last minute to get my Seder ticket; I wasn’t sure since I caught a cold two weeks ago and was unsure meeting with a group again. I’m feeling better, mask mandates are a thing in Philly again, and I want to see some of my friends. Unfortunately, I missed the sale.

Panicked, I wasn’t sure what to do. I felt dejected and even told Tommy as much. I was already depressed and dear Tommy did everything in his power to make me feel better. If he comes over next week, we will have a Seder and I will teach him about Passover. He’d like that, he said.

I decided to reach out to a friend and she responded with kindness:

Huzzah! So glad I reached out and I feel grateful. The whole meaning of Passover is opening your door and inviting people to your table. Of course, it’s also the Jewish drive from bondage and slavery, but it’s also welcoming people into your life and your struggle.

I am excited to celebrate the first night of Passover with my friends. I can’t wait to share the holiday with Tommy too.

Thankful Thursday 14 April 2022

The holidays are upon us! This is the month of Ramadan; Passover begins tomorrow; and Easter is on Sunday. I think I’m going to go to a Passover Seder in person tomorrow night, I still have to get the ticket. I’ve been debating it, but I think I want to go. I want to see some friends, and I will remain masked. Philadelphia brought back the mandate anyway. So grateful for that one.

I’m thankful for friends, family, and the community. Special thanks to Sonali and Mastiff for sending me merit badges. I’m also thankful for Chris, she read a poem I wrote yesterday that I made unintentionally sexual. We had a good laugh. Always so grateful for that. Thankful for Tommy too.

What are you thankful for today?