Learning to Let People Help You

Sometimes I struggle with letting people help me, especially people I love and want to help. Getting rides can be a point of contention for me. I am a non-driver because that is a safer option for me, and no medication doesn’t help the anxiety I feel when I drive. When I was learning at 18 and 19, both Nan and dad said, “you do what you are comfortable with. Don’t force yourself to drive when you’re not comfortable.” I failed the driving test nine times and after the ninth time, I told Nan and dad that I just didn’t feel comfortable. That was that.

Anyway, I digress. David has been helping me and there are moments where I refuse because I am Ms. Independent. Lately, I’ve needed some more help and Friday night he said to me, “even Ms. Independent needs help. Since we’re both trying to save money, when I can, I don’t mind taking you from the county to the library. I’ll be doing that in the future, anyway.” I agreed and on Saturday I asked him for help. I walked a lot in the city, had groceries and my skates, I didn’t feel like walking home from the bus. The bus never showed and I ended up taking the high speed line anyway. David didn’t mind picking me up and taking me home.

I asked him to take this selfie with me. That 15 minutes together was the highlight of my day. I am beyond grateful for him and I love him. We help each other and we’re both grateful for that. ❤

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Creator of the Happiness Box Project Initiative, a project where you write your happiness or gratitude each day, then open the box in the New Year. The Initiative is to teach joy and gratitude, to pass it on to others.

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