On Saturday, Andrew, his friends, and I went to the Simpson’s pop-up at the Springfield Mall in Delaware County, PA. It was fun and I liked his friends.
Andrew is a very nice guy. However, yesterday I was honest with him. After three dates, I didn’t feel a spark and honestly, I made a choice in who I want to get to know more. I was honest even more: I hate playing the field and would rather focus on one person. He respected my honesty, but was upset because he did want to court me. You can’t force attraction. I also don’t like leading people on, especially when they’re trying too hard to date.
| Every day is a new lesson. This seems to be a recurrent lesson, but it’s one I’m finally learning. Everyone has an opinion. Many people also love to tell you what you should do with your life. At the end of the day, you really need to do what is best for yourself. Only you really know. I took a break from Facebook dating. I really hate playing the field. Me personally, I don’t need to date a lot of people for research or whatever my 75 year old friend suggested. I truly believe there is nothing wrong with dating one person at a time and getting to know them. If it works out, great, but if it doesn’t, keep trying. |
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Hi, Jessica Marie!
I’m happy to tag along as you and Andrew and friends made it over to Springfield Mall in Delaware County. The Simpson’s pop-up looks like a colorful and fun place. it looks like you guys had a good time and enjoyed the food and beverages. I like your serial monogamy philosophy, JM. I for one am guilty of running up the score when I was young, dating as many women as humanly possible. That crazy behavior led to one embarrassing night in 1983. I was at a club standing at the bar when one of the girls I was dating showed up and stood on my left and almost simultaneously another girl I was dating approached to talk to me on my right. In today’s world, I think it makes more sense to do what you are doing, let a relationship play out, run its course and end before getting involved with another person or persons. I’m sure although Andrew is disappointed that you don’t want to take it further with him, he appreciates your honesty. It’s so much better than stringing him along or settling for something that isn’t quite what you want and need. Stay the course and you will reap the rewards pf patience.
Enjoy the rest of your week, dear friend JM!
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