Ah, Thursday is here again and the weather finally cooled a bit after an awesome thunder storm last night. It’s now 86 degrees with a breeze. I’ll take it and I’m thankful.
Today would have been our 9 months together, and today I’m celebrating not getting super depressed and doing what was best for me. Our relationship had been falling apart for a few months, especially since he had a wandering eye. I made a post on Facebook and this is what I wrote:
I broke up with Tommy on Monday, after he pulled away last Thursday. While I tried, his Asperger’s made it extremely difficult. I was often doing all the compromising and I felt like a babysitter. This was his 10th time pulling away in 8 months.
I feel more relief than anything. All I can say is that I hope that he finds his way. I’m grateful for the lessons and growth from 8 months together. Upward and onward.
I received a lot of nice comments, I’ll share a few with you:
We learn from our relationships. Sending hugs. I am glad you are looking at it in a positive light
(My reply: Heidi, thank you. Since I went through something really traumatic almost 9 years ago, he really helped me learn how to trust and open up to others.)
Hugs! I know this was tough for you to decide and am happy you’re feeling some relief. Exactly right, upward and onward
As long as you’re okay! I know he meant a lot to you, but you have to take care of you first! I’m here if you need to talk
I’m thankful for all the kind words. I’ve cried many times in the last few months, especially when I found out what his wandering eye was capable of, and now I just feel relief. I’m grateful for my courage.
I’m still chatting with Brian and we’ve been chatting a lot for the past three days. We have a lot in common and I’m grateful I met him.
I’m also thankful for family, friends, and co-workers. What are you grateful for today?
One thought on “Thankful Thursday 11 August 2022”
Hi, Jessica Marie!
Sorry to keep you waiting, dear friend. Mrs. Shady called me away just as I was preparing to visit you earlier. I agree with the people who commented on your Facebook post. In spite of the good times you and Tommy were having, the gift giving and the sweet words, deep down inside you knew for the last few months that you and he had some serious issues and were struggling. You tried your best to keep it going, but it takes the full cooperation of both parties to sustain a relationship. That was not the case. The mature way to handle the situation is to cut your losses, be thankful for the fun you and Tommy had, wish him all the best and move on. I have been in your shoes countless times. I have no regrets, because I believe everything happens for a reason. Every painful setback in life can be viewed as an opportunity to learn, grow and become stronger. I know that is how you will view it going forward.
Enjoy breathing that fresh, cooler air. Autumn will soon come to Pennsylvania.