Letting Go

Sometimes we all have to make difficult decisions and while they are not entirely joyful, they can lead to it in the future.

On Monday night I broke up with Tommy. I’m grateful for the almost 9 months we were together; I grew and I learned to trust more. However, all of this pulling away is too much for me. I simply outgrew the relationship.

I’m grateful for the lessons he taught me – he helped me open up, especially about the rape, and realize that I can be loved even though something horrible has happened to me and I can be loved even with PTSD. He helped teach me to trust a bit more too.

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One thought on “Letting Go”

  1. Hi, Jessica Marie!

    Yessum, I suspected this is what I would find when I read your post, and I admit that I hesitated, pondering all day long, not knowing what to write. I’m sorry it didn’t work out with Tommy, but believe me, I’ve been in the same position many times. I know it must have been hard on you every time he withdrew, stating that he needed needed time and space to figure things out . That’s not to say he was not entitled to do so. Its just that it makes it hard to maintain a relationship when it keeps happening. You’re right. As we go through life, we learn from each and every relationship. You and Tommy learned a lot from each other and had many fun times. That’s a win for you and for him. You did the right thing by getting out there in circulation again instead of pining away and feeling sorry for yourself. With your ability to make friends wherever you go, you are bound to have more exciting encounters like the one with Brian the other night. If I were you, I would simply keep getting out there and enjoy every day as it comes. Have fun doing the things you like to do and visiting your favorite spots. I’m sure you will continue to meet interesting people, forge new friendships and maybe feel a close connection with someone again. “Too many fish in the sea,” as the old song goes.

    Enjoy the rest of your week, dear friend JM!


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