Merry-go-sorry: an experience that elicits both joy and sorrow.
It was a merry-go-sorry week and while most of the time I hope for the best, there are some people and situations that you just have to put your hands up and say, “I care; apparently you don’t and I can’t care for someone who doesn’t care for themselves like that. I love myself too much to get involved. I will pray for you, but I never want to see you again.” This is going to take a lot…
As I’m sure you all noticed, I’ve been listening to a lot of TED talks. Here is Girl Up! and this is what I was referencing. I’m going to girl up and I am going to defend myself. Whatever doesnt serve me, I’m not allowing in my life. I love myself too much to do that and I’m still a kind person; I’m guarding not only my heart, but my life too. He is also causing me a lot of anxiety and I’ve been having nightmares lately. The more I think about how scared I am, there’s a reason and I’m listening to my intuition.
I think we can all use this reminder. Women are strong and powerful; we should build each other up and protect one another. I also think speaking up to people who do not honour our feelings deserve to be told off too.
So, yes, Savage will stay in my Happiness Box and how I am handling it is too, I am proud of myself.
2 thoughts on “Merry-Go-Sorry Moments Still Belong in the Box”
Hi, Jessica Marie!
Everybody has their share of merry-go-sorry experiences. It is the nature of life. In NLP seminars I was taught the principle “It’s not what happens to you… it’s what you do about it that makes all the difference.” Some people stay stuck just so they can continue to play the victim and draw attention to themselves. There are more resourceful ways to get attention and they are touched on brilliantly by Courtney Ferrell in her “Girl Up” TED talk. The principles and strategies Courney outlined for Tessa and the audience apply to all people, not only women. Go forward with love and self-confidence. Be authentically you. Lift yourself up and then turn around and lift others up. Stop viewing other women or other people as rivals (as our so-called “president” does). As you might have noticed, that TED talk was uploaded in 2015 before the Trump era began. Today it is more important than ever for us to treat each other with respect and for women to have a sense of their own worth, even as the leader of the free world spreads hate and practices misogyny and bigotry. The part at the end of Courtney’s presentation was key. Hang with the wrong crowd and you will stay at their level forever. If you are truly serious about getting on a success track, hang with educated, enlightened, successful people. Ask them questions. Learn and adopt their habits. Model their behavior. Ask them for referrals to other successful people and resources. Learn the art of “human brevity.” If you spend most of your time moaning about how bad your situation is, you are not focusing on doing something constructive to change it and people will be reluctant to invest in you. Clear away all that junk. Stop wasting time and expending effort on people and activities that suck the joy out of life and keep you down. Focus each day on people and activities that will enable you to make tangible progress toward reaching your goals.
Have a wonderful weekend, dear friend JM!
That is so true! You reflect the company you keep. While I welcome everyone and keep an open mind, I have learned that I can only stretch that so far. If someone is a human money pit and doesn’t want to change, I’m not doing that. It’s far better to focus on people who want to change, as well as successful people who have dreams and goals.
There’s this one TED talk that mentions Tony Robbins and NLP. It sounded like a wonderful program. I’m going to Google it.
Have a great weekend, dear friend.