Last week I discovered the TED talk from Sara Knight. Sara Knight is the author of The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*** and I’m so glad she decided to make a TED talk about the magic of it.
You know, this is great advice! I started keeping a F*** Budget and I’m noticing that the F*** Budget ties in nicely with my financial budget. This also makes sense because when you care too much and do not set limits of who you give your time, money, and energy to, you deplete financial budgets, as well as your health. I think this f*** budget is a catchy term for keeping boundaries and putting “no” in place.
Mom bought me a special financial budget book and the notebook I used to use for my monthly finance, maybe I can repurpose it as F*** Budget Book. Lately, I’ve been keeping a mental f*** budget, but maybe seeing it writing can also solidify the hard moments, when it’s tempting to give all your cares to a wasteful situation.
I used to feel guilty and I guess that was coming from trying to be seen as “nice” person who loves to help. No, setting boundaries and saying “no” doesn’t make you appear as a bad person. To some people, you may be, but I have learned that those people who don’t understand and try to manipulate, and leave when I keep to my word are people that really don’t belong in my life (or anyone’s life) anyway. Healthy people who love you will understand your limits, will understand your boundaries, and will understand “no.”
At the end of the day, Sara Knight’s concept will allow for more joy in our lives.