The Magic of Not Caring | Setting Up a F Budget

Last week I discovered the TED talk from Sara Knight. Sara Knight is the author of The Life Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*** and I’m so glad she decided to make a TED talk about the magic of it.


You know, this is great advice! I started keeping a F*** Budget and I’m noticing that the F*** Budget ties in nicely with my financial budget. This also makes sense because when you care too much and do not set limits of who you give your time, money, and energy to, you deplete financial budgets, as well as your health. I think this f*** budget is a catchy term for keeping boundaries and putting “no” in place.

Mom bought me a special financial budget book and the notebook I used to use for my monthly finance, maybe I can repurpose it as F*** Budget Book. Lately, I’ve been keeping a mental f*** budget, but maybe seeing it writing can also solidify the hard moments, when it’s tempting to give all your cares to a wasteful situation.

I used to feel guilty and I guess that was coming from trying to be seen as “nice” person who loves to help. No, setting boundaries and saying “no” doesn’t make you appear as a bad person. To some people, you may be, but I have learned that those people who don’t understand and try to manipulate, and leave when I keep to my word are people that really don’t belong in my life (or anyone’s life) anyway. Healthy people who love you will understand your limits, will understand your boundaries, and will understand “no.”

At the end of the day, Sara Knight’s concept will allow for more joy in our lives.

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Creator of the Happiness Box Project Initiative, a project where you write your happiness or gratitude each day, then open the box in the New Year. The Initiative is to teach joy and gratitude, to pass it on to others.

2 thoughts on “The Magic of Not Caring | Setting Up a F Budget”

  1. Hi, Jessica Marie!

    I watched the entire video segment and it took me right back to the motivational self-help seminars and workshops I attended in the 80s, namely the “est training” (Werner Erhard Seminars Training) and NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming), the type of program offered by life coach/personal growth guru Tony Robbins. I enjoyed the presentation on decluttering your mind and setting up a new kind of budget – an “F” Budget. I’m glad you found value in the principles the speaker outlined, She dispensed great advice on how to “come from the power of intention” – to be polite yet firm and assertive in declining invitations and/or propositions, activities you automatically say “yes” to but don’t really want to do, things that end up wasting time and money and making you unhappy or even miserable. As I mentioned in my previous comment, there is power in drawing a line and enforcing it and power in saying “no.” The changes are dramatic and the benefits incalculable when we learn to control what we pay attention to, what we worry about and what we consent to do in our free time. When we break free of the mental shackles of feeling obligated, sorry and ashamed, we command respect and emerge happier and more confident.

    Thanks for sharing this TED talk, dear friend JM, and have a great week!


    1. That is so true, dear friend! I think now that the holidays are coming up, I will be thinking about this budget. I know I’m not going to attend any work functions anymore because there are very few things I can eat there AND if I have to make my own food, it’s not really much of a party. This holiday season is going to be cheap and it’s going to feel so good. I’m doing another happy dance.


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